|Terrible Daughter for Easter
||[Apr. 13th, 2006|05:11 pm]
Cat in the Garden
So, I’m a terrible daughter (I have I said this before)? My mother, called last night (she only calls when she wants something). SO, she wanted us to come for Easter dinner. Now, we’re not religious, we’re not churchy folk nor do we pretend to be. She and her husband (my step-father) are members of a local church & do celebrate the “holiday”. I told her “NO, I don’t want to come.” She was speechless that I would refuse so quickly.
What is strange is that my girlfriend and I were talking about our mothers on Tuesday night. She’s embarrassed by hers and I’m embarrassed by mine. She lives 10 min. away and I see her maybe every other month. She’s a “crap” collector: stuffed teddy bears (she’s over 50!) - they’re spread all over her “formal” living room, tons of Christmas stuff - she wants to put an addition on her house so she has more room for her “stuff!” She’s loud when she has more than 2 glasses of wine, she is bossy and inconsiderate... I could go on, but anyway...
Background: My mother had an affair that broke up my parent’s marriage. I found out first by snooping in her desk - I knew before my father did. She ended up marrying this guy - after HE got divorced! I stayed with my dad, she moved 3 hours away and I only saw her on holidays. So, we’ve never been close. I moved in with her after college, as I didn’t have a job or anywhere else to go. I stayed with her until I found my man & then moved in with him (this was 6 years ago).
SO, I feel badly to refuse her, but I don’t WANT to go. I spend all day dealing with people and being nice, I DON’T want to do it on my weekends. Arg.